Monday 6 October 2008

Don't Freak Out: What I Don't Like About DMB

Disclaimer: I love Dave. DMB is in my top three favorite bands, which rotate. I think they are the best musicians and performers...ever.

Every rose has its thorns. Every high has a low. Every band has something - a song, a chord, a line- that you don't especially like. I love Dave Matthews Band, but I have some issues with them too.

First off, I hate the song "Captain". Whenever I get it stuck in my head, the rest of the day is horrible. I just really, really, do not like it.

"Say Goodbye". This is really an awesome song - a great one to sing along to, and Carter totally kicks ass in it. However, I'm not too big on the actual idea represented here. If you've heard it, you probably know that it's about an affair: But tommorrow go back to your man, I'm back to my world and were back to being friends. Call me old fashioned, but I'm not a huge fan of cheating. In some way, this song is beautiful and romantic... but part of it just bothers me.

When I was younger, the lyrics of Tripping Billies bothered me slightly. Eat, Drink, and be marry, for tomorrow we die. Part of me was frightened by the bluntless of this; at ten years old, I wasn't really yet aware that I would die at some point. Later, the "carpe diem" idea of the song began to bother me slightly - as a catholic school kid, I wasn't taught to "live it up", or to have fun before you die. The idea seemed sinful to me. If you're going to die tomorrow, you shouldn't be partying - you should probably be praying that you don't burn in hell.

Now that I think of it, most DMB songs that bothered me did so because of my catholic background. Now I'm a bit different - perhaps more open-minded, a more independent thinker. However, those old habits die hard, and although I find nothing wrong with songs like Pig or Tripping Billies now, the catholic school girl buried inside my head is still confused and unsure about the ideas in these songs.

I guess the moral of the story is... Dave Matthews and catholic school girls do not mix.


Joe Mignano said...

Wow. Where to start?

To begin with Molly...I understand what you have against Captain and Say Goodbye, but I do not understand what you have against Tripping Billies (to set the record straight, Captain is one of my all-time favorite DMB songs, and I am a very big fan of Say Goodbye).

I do not believe "Eat, drink and be merry, for tomorrow we die" should be taken quite as literally as you are taking it. The song is not saying expressly to go out and is saying to live your life to the fullest, as you never know when it may get taken away from you. It is saying to simply be happy, to make yourself feel good...and that could easily be praying not to go to hell.

Just my thoughts...

It is interesting to me that you disagree with the message behind Tripping Billies from a Catholic perspective. I can understand being upset with the specifics of the song (generally sinful ideas in nature) from a Catholic perspective...but Dave is just relating it to his life. He is not really advocating these actions or telling others to commit them.

The same argument conceivably could be made for the messaging behind Say Goodbye.

Just my thoughts!

Joe Mignano said...

Also, to follow-up on my previous post...

Tripping Billies is probably my favorite song of all time...contrary to popular belief, I believe strongly this should be the last song played by the band. So I may be slightly biased lol.

Molly Eadie said...

Sorry Joe, I feel like I should have made it clearer that, besides the things mentioned in the blog, I really do love Tripping Billies - it's probably one of my favorite DMB songs as well. I agree that I was taking it too literally - when I first heard it, I was much younger and tended to take things like that. Now I understand that it's just Dave's view on life, but that hint of disapproval from my youth will always be in the back of my mind when I hear it.

I thought this blog would get an interesting response from you haha

Jim Mignano said...

hey Joe, do you ever look at my blog, or is it always just Molly's!? haha

Molly Eadie said...

You know, Jim, I was actually just thinking that!
Mine must be better and more entertaining!
Oh slam!!!